Older Adult: “What I Miss, What I Cherish”

“What I Miss, What I Cherish” Reflection

Later life often brings a unique mix of reflection, nostalgia, and gratitude. As roles shift, health changes, or loved ones pass, older adults may feel a sense of loss for what once was. At the same time, they may hold deep appreciation for relationships, memories, and daily joys that remain. The “What I Miss, What I Cherish” reflection exercise helps older adults process these emotions by creating space to honor both grief and gratitude.

This practice validates the complexity of aging—acknowledging sadness without becoming stuck in it, while also fostering appreciation for the richness of lived experience. By reflecting on what they miss, older adults can express loss in healthy ways. By identifying what they cherish, they strengthen resilience and cultivate gratitude. Together, these reflections deepen self-understanding, promote emotional balance, and encourage meaningful connection with others.

Why “What I Miss, What I Cherish” Matters

• Normalizes grief and loss: Many older adults face cumulative losses (health, independence, or relationships). Reflecting on what is missed provides emotional acknowledgment, which research shows is essential for healthy adjustment (Neimeyer, 2000).

• Fosters meaning-making and wisdom: Integrating both positive and difficult life experiences contributes to a greater sense of meaning, perspective, and wisdom (Westerhof & Bohlmeijer, 2014; Ardelt, 2004).

• Encourages gratitude and positive outlooks: Naming what one cherishes is strongly linked to increased optimism, better mood, and higher life satisfaction among older adults (Wood et al., 2010).

• Strengthens relationships: Sharing these reflections with peers, caregivers, or younger generations fosters emotional closeness and validates the importance of life stories (Pinquart & Sörensen, 2001).

• Preserves identity and legacy: Expressing what is cherished reinforces a sense of self and allows older adults to pass on their values, memories, and lessons to others (Erikson, 1982; McAdams, 2001).